Cultural Differences In Communication Between Russians And Americans
Cultural differences in communication between Russians and Americans. Lynn Visson makes the following statements in her book, ‘Wedded Strangers’:
"The body language of Russians and Americans are different. Russians stand closer than Americans. They look directly and unwaveringly into your eyes.”
"Russians are long winded. Americans are short and to the point. Russians think that giving a short answer is impolite, as if they had not given the matter enough consideration. Americans think a long answer is impolite, as if they are boring the other person and wasting their time.”
At our wedding, my wife wanted me to give a long-winded toast to her parents. I was to tell them of the story of how we met. I was to thank her parents and her ancestors for bringing life to her. I was to make a toast to all of her relatives and friends.
We were married in America. Her parents, friends, and relatives were not in attendance. I explained to my wife that in America, the custom was that other people made toasts to the wedding couple. They did not toast each other.
We had some Russian friends in attendance who made toasts in Russian to us. My best man tried to make a toast in Russian that no one understood. The Americans didn’t understand the Russian. And his Russian pronunciation was so bad that the Russians didn’t understand him either.
However, none of that satisfied my wife who would accept no substitute to a long-winded toast to her from me.
Communication Is A Key Factor In Long Term Relationships
We are frequently drawn to an individual because of physical attraction. During our initial dating, we often enjoy their company and their personality. But for the long haul, it's important that our partner be able to communicate with us effectively.
Miscommunication between couples is one of the main reasonsthat break-ups occur. What are the reasons for miscommunication between couples and what can be done to correct this?
There is an old saying that the family that eats dinner together stays together. A lot of the truth of that statement comes from the fact that the entire family is sitting down together for twenty minutes to a half hour and communicating with each other.
It may fall short of the twenty minutes of undivided attention, but it is a start.
First and foremost, being a good listener is a necessity in a relationship. The more that your loved one understands that you are truly listening to them and appreciating the things thatthey are saying to you, the more open they will be with you when discussing difficult topics.
One good way of ensuring a solid line of communication in a relationship is to set aside a period of time, ten to twenty minutes, once a day to let each other know what's on your mind.
By doing this, you can help yourselves to getting possible problems off of your chest before they grow into unsolvable issues. When you have this daily discussion, it's important to put aside all other distractions.
Turn the television off, leave your cellular phone elsewhere, and be sure that the room is free of distraction, ensuring that you hold your partners attention. One good practice that is commonly used in conversation is to respond with both body language and spoken language when your partner tells you something.
Affirm what they were saying by repeating back what you heard them say to you and use positive body language to show them that you truly want to know what it is that they have to say.
Secondly, you need to realize that men and women talk in very different ways. If you are a woman who is discussing your feelings with a male partner, it's important to not capitalize on the conversation and continue talking in a stream.
When communicating with men, it's best to deal with the situation by offering small chunks of what you need to say and then giving him an opportunity to make mention of any details that he may need to discuss.
Women frequently talk about a subject and then eventually get around to coming to a conclusion about the subject. Men are the exact opposite. They make their point and then provide supporting detail to support it.
Men get frustrated with women talking and talking and finally they will ask in frustration, "what's the point?" Women, on the other hand, don't want the solutions that men are so eager to provide. They just "want to be heard." They'll come to their own conclusions through the process of talking things out.
One important factor to realize regarding the differences of men and women in conversation is what we are looking for from the people that are listening to us. Women often look for sympathetic conversation, appreciating most when others help them to understand that the problem they have affects other people as well.
Men are more problem-solving when it comes to conversation, and they are often quick to offer an idea for fixing whatever situation abounds as opposed to offering sympathies.
This can anger women who feel that the manis not fully paying attention to what they are saying and suggesting an answer too quickly. Understanding this aspect ofour social psychology is important to understanding the differences we face in communication.